10 life-saving defenses against personal attack

1. If a mugger demands your wallet or purse, don’t hand it to him. Toss it away from you. Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet than you, and he will go for the wallet. Then run away in the other direction. My brother carries an empty wallet in an obvious place and his real wallet in an inside pocket, out of sight. Inside the empty wallet he has a piece of paper that says “F*ck You.”  That’s the one he would pitch in an emergency. 

2. Women are always trying to be sympathetic. Rein it in. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who played on the sympathies of  unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving.  The driver won’t see you, but everybody behind you will, and hopefully a cop will pick up on the light being out.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit. They’re probably using the time for a good reason like doing their checkbook, or checking a list but it’s risky behavior. At the very least, lock your doors as soon as you get in the vehicle. The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

If someone is in your car and puts a gun to your head don’t drive off. Instead, surge forward and crash the car.  Your airbag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5.  A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

  • Be aware: Look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
  • If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. If you’re being abducted, and if you’re not armed, drop to the floor, you’re way harder to maneuver and you may attract attention. Keep up the shouting. Yell, NO! loudly and often. 
  • Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. It’s better to be paranoid than dead.

6. Always take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at night.

7. If the predator has a handgun and you are not under his control, always run! Handguns are notoriously inaccurate in an amateur’s hands and they aren’t good for a kill shot from a distance. So run. Preferably in a zig -zag pattern.


Tiny SquirrelThe Squirrel says: It’s a well-known psychological phenomenon that a victim instantly transfers personal and physical responsibility to an assailant when they touch them, or produce a weapon. It’s tough to do, but you must suppress the urge to comply. You MUST fight back. “I’ve got a gun in my pocket” is not a threat, it’s an admission the assailant is not ready to harm you.  Now’s the time to turn around and poke his eye out. Or knee him in the groin. And remember, a gun is linear. If it’s pointed in the air, or away from you, it’s not going to hurt you (except for ricochets and we’re not to worried about that at this point). Take a SAFE course, a self-defense course taught by policemen and retired military. They will share a ton of inside tips with you about personal defense and the psyche of abduction and assault.  

8. Remember, the elbow is a super strong point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! The nose, throat and especially the ear are susceptible to an elbow blow, while you’re kicking a Self-defense classshin, of course. An elbow in the kidney is also painful and effective.


9. The crying baby scam: You think you hear a baby crying on the porch. Call the police but do not go outside to check. It’s a ruse to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. What you are probably hearing is a tape. And if it’s a real baby, you want the police to find it.

10. The running water scam. If you wake up in the middle of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, don’t immediately rush out to investigate. Home invaders can turn on all your outside taps full blast so that you will go out to investigate and then attack. Instead, check through windows to secure the perimeter. Fetch your gun or call the police and keep them on the line while you go to check. Chances are, they’ll come by to investigate.